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I look around Kat’s room and see Selena Gomez, Taylor Swift and Victoria Justice everywhere – I like them all too except that ALL of them have beautiful, long hair and have Kat believing that this style is very ‘in’ and here to stay. Personally, I and Papa think that she looks much smarter with short hair but when you have an 11 year old with opinions and confidence of her own, you have to let go and give some degree of independence for them to live with their little decisions.
There was a time when both Kit Kat had the same haircut as me (a French Bob) and everywhere we went, they were the mini-me. At least Kit still has the “same as me” cut and she does look adorable (not to forget smart and more comfortable in this heat!) – Even Kit has started asking for long hair and the only reason she goes for a haircut and forgets about her original plan is the ‘lollipop’ that she gets there! (So far so good)
Well (*sigh*)...Not all of us are blessed with enviable tresses and as is the case with Kat, she does not like her hair so much after she’s washed them (she has only publicly admitted this now) – they have natural waves and this is the reason why she needs to tie her hair almost all the time...
Glad to know, I’m not the only mum who is freaking out with my daughter’s long hair. I know of other mums complaining about similar issues with their daughter’s hair and how they wish for them to get a shorter haircut (easy to maintain, no fuss style I hear?)
I think the time is coming or will come soon (fingers crossed)...Kat was visibly upset with her hair last night and Papa and I gave her opinions of our own (very daring I must admit) and instead of stopping us, Kat was actually contemplating...baby steps and pure motherly instinct maybe but I feel we will be making a trip to the hairdresser before school reopens (Yay!) – we may be praying silently for a certain decision but in the end we will accept whatever Kat decides to do – like we always tell her – “We will never lie to you…we will only tell you the facts and you decide what you want to do – we can guide, not force our opinions”.
After all it’s Kat’s hair, long or short, Kat’s decision…she will get the last word. That’s that.
See also the post "The insatiable yearning...for long tresses " which I wrote last year.
The pool in our building closes at 11am and Kat goes for a swim everyday (much against her wishes sometimes) during the summer break. The other day she was getting terribly late for the pool and after much agitation, grumbling and everything included I managed to send her down at 10:30am so she could have at least half hour swim – imagine my bewilderment, my shock when she came back 5 minutes later saying she had forgotten her swim hat and could not jump into the pool without one as it would spoil her hair! HAIR?!
To aggravate an already delicate (at times, hilarious) situation, Kat is now obsessed with LONG hair. She stretches and pulls her hair down from under her ears every night (Kit might do a better job I say) hoping they will grow faster...I still prefer the short style – so easy to maintain, no fuss at all...but that’s me and I cannot impose my wishes on Kat and whenever I have tried, it has never worked :-(
Kat’s hair is not so straight like Pocahontas so we do have the occasional waves and layers to worry about which can be nuisance for anyone desperate for quick long hair (Can you imagine, she even suggested hair extensions once but judging from my glare and high pitched reaction, she immediately said it was a joke! Phew!), so I am not looking forward to school mornings when everything and I mean EVERYTHING needs to run smoothly, especially now that Kit needs to be ready for school too. (Oh! What an adventure this is going to turn out...)
Kit, who was always a great candidate for short hair – who would slide easily in her Dora car and get a haircut while clapping her hands watching Dora or Max and Ruby is now adamant about long hair too! There was a time (not so long ago) when all 3 of us had identical French Bobs - then Kat left us to pursue her long hair dream and now Kit is abandoning me. On the brighter side, looking at the growing number of greys in mine and Papa’s hair, I could certainly use these ‘hair savings’ towards covering those, don’t you think :-)