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Kit is excited even after she gets off the bus in the afternoon as there is always something interesting that happened in school! So, it was no surprise when she came home yesterday and showed me Robots at Recess signup sheet. Apparently, their school will be having a Robotics class for their grade, once every week for six weeks in the recess and the program will accept only the first 12 entries. Kit was very concerned as her bus reaches late and she was never going to make the first 12! She loves Robotics and was worried about missing the opportunity. She seems to be a step ahead of me always so before I could suggest anything, she asked me if I could scan her signup sheet and email to the teacher. Yeah, well, even I was thinking that, but a tad too late : ) She even thought she should write a personal note to the teacher to convey her eagerness. She then sat at her desk patiently for the next half hour and wrote a note to her teacher which I absolutely fell in love with. I had to share it.
The pages were scanned and the teachers agreed with Kit’s reasons to be given a chance (!) – rules were changed and they decided to include children at random as it was not fair to offer to first 12 only. I think Kit stands a good chance now!!!
Now, Kit is not the kind to relax. She always wants to be doing something (most times with paper). Easter was the perfect opportunity for her to get creative. We don’t celebrate Easter in the true fashion. I hide the eggs for Kit to find in the house (Kat has given up on that!) and this year we even decided to paint some eggs (this reminds me that Kit had asked me to take a picture of the painted eggs before I threw them away but I forgot!! Praying to God that she does not remember…)
Kit decided to give us all a packet for Easter. As you can see in the pictures, each of us got a pack which included an Easter card (like a book with several pages). It was hard work especially if you see the details on the paper flowers (she made the ones with needle designs). She even gave us all a few lines to recite when we got the card…
It’s come at last!
Pass them out!
Don’t ask me what it means but it was great fun when all of us sang it together!
Happy Easter to all those who did celebrate and had fun. We enjoyed our own version of the holiday!
Kit is 8 now and Kat is turning 15 next month...unbelievable - where did the time go?
It’s a joke in our house that Kat can always be found in front of the mirror straightening her hair! She truly loves her hair and takes extreme good care of it (she has incredible hair too). She’s become organized now in the sense that she now washes and dries and straightens her hair in the morning before school. It’s a lot of work but she manages to do it by getting up early around 6am (I have never ever seen her jump this fast out of bed as it is with the thrice a week early wake up…)
With Kat so fond of her hair, it was but natural for Kit to get more involved with hers. I miss the days when both Kit and Kat had short hair. All they needed was a quick comb in the morning, a hair band or clips and they were ready…it’s a little bit more complicated now, especially with Kit as Kat is able to do everything herself and would NEVER allows me to touch her hair.
Kit is now left with choices of styles she can do and most days it is braids and I have to say I love them. I still feel she looked cuter with shorter hair but I guess it’s the ease of handling that probably makes me say that (or rather influences it). I miss Kit’s short hair but I know very soon, I’ll be missing this braiding routine when she gets deeper in love with the hair styling following Kat’s footsteps…
In the same way, we try to fit in as many activities we can (and can afford) into a child's schedule to keep them busy and make them smarter! The same happened with Kit. A typical day for her used to be - go to school at 8am, come back at 4pm, have an after school activity (gymnastics, swimming, art, ice skating) till 5:30pm, shower at 6pm, dinner at 6:30pm and then prepare for bed by 7:30pm. - wow! exhausting!!
It was during one of these tightly packed days that I asked Kit if she could hurry up finishing her puzzle (which she had only just started) so we could be on schedule for shower and dinner. She looked up at me with her big eyes and solemn face and said - "Will I ever have time for life, mummy?"
Although I did not think much at the time, when I thought about it later at night, I realized that Kit was right. We try so hard to make them smart that we forget to let them be kids. Let them have fun.
So I learnt my lesson this year. Kit has an interesting schedule with activities AND fun included and most importantly, there is time for free play. There is definitely TIME FOR LIFE!
Kit is a great swimmer for her 5 years of age but this age also has its moods – sometimes great and sometimes a true troublemaker. Kat on the other hand, is a serious swimmer who prides in doing laps and endurance swimming. What this means is that when I send the two swimming to the pool downstairs, some days are just perfect (mostly when I am watching them) or some days are miserable (mostly when our nanny is watching them) and Kit comes home crying or sulking with a vow to never go swimming with Kat again (a vow which is easily forgotten by the end of the minute!)
So, today when they came back with Kit howling at the top of her voice, I did not think it was anything different – till Kat explained the whole situation to me. Apparently, Kit was getting bored in the pool today as there was not enough space so she started splashing Kat and pulling on her bathing suit and generally causing her trouble. At this point the lifeguard beckoned Kit with her finger (!) and scolded her and warned her that she can never enter the pool again if she behaves this way. What way, may I ask? Kit knows when she is being scolded and does not take it well when she thinks she is not wrong (sometimes even when she is wrong) – so she started crying at which point the lifeguard scolded her again!
This same lifeguard was on the other hand allowing a little boy to take her rescue tube and play with it in the pool (bumping Kat several times with it when she was doing her laps) - now how professional is THAT!!
So first when Kit came home crying with Kat, I lost my cool – there is something about sobbing and the inability to make out anything what is being said that truly frustrates me. After I heard the story from Kat and our nanny, I called up the resident manager and explained the situation. Sadly the lifeguard had left for the day but she has promised to talk to her tomorrow and get back to me. She says the protocol is to explain to the parents first or the adult with the children and if that does not work, parents should be contacted – they are not allowed to scold children (5 years old?) directly- absolutely not their business!
Kat always likes to hear me fight for the right – she says it gives her confidence – so I guess something good did come out of this situation today.
Once all sorted I explained that everyone was in the wrong and no one can make that right. Kit was wrong for having acted in a way that prompted the lifeguard to get angry. Kat was wrong in having cut short her already short exercise routine and not having controlled the situation with Kit. Nanny was wrong in not having protected Kit when she was being scolded or interfered or called me. I was wrong (and surely crazy) for having trusted them all and sent them together believing everything was going to be OK!
Now that the anger is out of me, I have a severe migraine – all that blood rushing did me no good. Did it?